How to live happily with in-laws

Time has come for putting an end to the never ending “ daughter-in-law Versus Mother-in-law” feud .Now that both the parties are more educated, they must try to adjust and live, thus giving husband/son relief form family tensions.
Mothers-in-law must remember  the  ill treatment, they had received from their in laws, and not perpetrate the same on their daughters-in-law. With their understanding ,non- interfering  and adjusting nature the in laws can  have a good rapport with their daughters-in-law, thus saving a lot of tension for their sons.
Fathers-in-law must not interfere with the day to day running of the house offer advise only when asked for.

Things You'll Need

1. A little patience
2. consideration
3. adjusting nature

Steps

 

1. try to change your in laws opinion about your family (if it is adverse)

your parents –in-law and your parents are from different backgrounds. It would disappoint you if you try to compare them. Proper behavior with your husband’s family speaks well of your upbringing and your parents.

 

2. even if they find fault with you ,have patience and change their behavior with your adjusting nature. Convince them that you need a little more time since you come from a different background.

Serve your in laws, and  take their admonitions also with the attitude that you are serving your parents.

 

3. having family discussions or arguments before neighbors and friends, would spoil the family reputations

even if your husband argues with you on parental provocation,  keep cool. Try to convince him when he is in a good mood.

 

4. Living separately may make life easy. But peaceful co-existence is better. As help and advice from elders is always needed in day to day life.

5. though old fashioned, your parents-in-law  care for the welfare of the family,  respect  their wishes and advises. Every individual is special. Take advantage of their knowledge. It could vary from tips on running the house,cookery, handicrafts, knack to repairs things etc.

Tips

• Keep good relations with your sisters-in-law and seek their help when you want to convince your in laws. Since they are more close to their parents they will help by arguing with their parents.
• Praise your in laws  before your husband, when they are considerate to you. Then your husband also will lend a compassionate ear when you explain about a problem  you have with your in laws.
• Think how unrest in the house can act on the health of your husband, since he will be caught in the vice between his parents and wife.
• Humble behavior would earn you peace  and praise.
• Every individual is special. Take advantage of their knowledge. It could vary from tips on running the house,cooker, handicrafts, knack to repairs things etc.
• The point of attention and common interest, for all of you are the man of the house and children . So try to work in co=ordination for the betterment of the family.

Caution

• Avoid taking advice from parents, neighbors and friends regarding problems in the house, unless the situation is grave. It can precipitate matters.
• don’t start arguing with your husband when he is upset with the provocation of his parents, it would lead to a bigger quarrel with tempers flaring .
• do not plan to live separately, or send the in laws to some Old Age Home . Imagine your parents in the same plight. It could boom rang on you during your old age